Outcomes of Regret

Today I went to the sad double, funeral of a Lieutenant Commander and his wife. I was asked by the care home to show his daughter how he had answered the questions. The last one in particular.

The funeral was a gunshot funeral, which was a new experience for me. Have ministers as parents, I have been to many funerals, none like this. For a start, there were gunshots fired to salute the life of the man. The other major difference, was the fact it was a double funeral. Both him and his wartime sweetheart had passed away within a few days of each other. Maybe it is true, you can die of a broken heart.

After the funeral, with the guidance of the matron of the home introduced me to their daughter. I explained to her that I was doing a project at university and that I had met her parents. I showed her the answers he had given one of which was that he regretted not spending a lot of time with his daughter and that if he could tell future generations one thing, that he would say that they should cherish the time they have with their family, because life will flash by and you’ll regret it later. The daughter broke down crying and gave me a hug.  I can only hope that I did the right thing by listening to the nursing home.

This project has had a major impact, and it’s not just me that it is affecting. I think that once I reach one hundred service men and women, I will publish this as a first volume.



Veteran Questionnaires

After completing just under a hundred questionnaires with some veterans and those still in the army, the most common responses to the three questions I posed surprised me.

1. What is your best/favourite memory?

Most answers said something about their wedding or family.

2. What is a tough time you have worked through?

All of which were coming through injuries or the return home.

3. If you could tell future generations one thing, what would it be?

Most of the responses were of regret. One man asked if he could say “I would tell my daughter that I was sorry for not being there for her when she was growing up.”

This project has really moved me. My original idea was to create a time capsule, from these responses, I would be more inclined to make three books that use my creative writing skills to illustrate the responses to these three questions.

I am also happy to report that the veterans nursing home I visited will be continuing with this project, but on a smaller scale so that they can help people recover from the likes of depression and PTSD.

Time Capsule Project

Contacting so many armed forces personnel today it is unreal. Anyone here in the armed forces or have family in the armed forces that wants to be a part of my Graphic project. All you have to do is answer 3 questions:

1. What is your best/favourite memory?
2. What is a tough time you have worked through?
3. If you could tell future generations one thing, what would it be?

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